I often see posts here stating how toxic the community is, I wanted to shed some light on the awesome experiences I have had since returning to the game 3 weeks ago after several years away. And how my reactions help shape my experiences.
In the last week I have had players initially starting complaining about stuff. But in the end we get along, win or lose, and walk away amicable towards one another.
For example, I was playing pos1 sniper and we were losing bad, my pos2 clinkz starts getting mad about my DMG output. Instead of getting super defensive, I simply reply "hey man, I'm trying. I have poor farm and can't do much. Sorry the game is going poorly, I have not been carrying my weight as safelane."
Guess what happened next?
He said "yea, I'm sorry I was short. Just hate losing is all…"
Me too brother, me too.
I share this not as a profound or unique experience, but rather a reflection (pun intended) on how the level of toxicity one experiences in games is determined by one's own reactions. The community you see is often a mirror (perhaps distorted) of your own personality flaws.
I am no saint, I quit the game in my late 20s because I would rage. Perhaps age has granted me the patience this game (and community) needs.
Have fun out there gentlemen, and may the draft be ever in your favor.
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/DotA2/comments/pgo2c9/the_community_is_a_mirror/